Imagine it’s the end of your life. You stop, turn to take one final glance back at what was, and then it hits you.
You’ve missed it.
Your life is over and you’ve missed it.
It’s not that you weren’t here physically. You showed up everyday and did the things you needed to do to get through the day. But today was just like yesterday and the day before and the day before that.
Alive. But not quite living.
A near-life experience.
I’ve had periods of my life exactly like that. I remember the younger lost, angry version of me, so focused on what I felt was missing I never acknowledged what I already had. I remember the mature, responsible yet highly-stressed version of me focused on providing for a young family, often overwhelmed with career pressures that would never be left at the office.
TIME KEEPS TICKING Life has a funny way of taking over your life. Sometimes its rather dramatic. But most of the time life is quite subtle, slowly influencing the moments and events of the day, compromising our proactive intentions and replacing them with reactive responses.
A life of reactive responses relegates your hopes and dreams to bucket lists, delaying further your full evolution into all you were created to become.
Think about how you spend the hours of your precious life. Are you spending more time digging out of what’s in front of you than digging in your heels and making a stand for yourself?
You’re the only one who gets to decide how much living actually gets done in your lifetime. Remember, time is always marching forward and it’s surely not waiting for anyone.
Isn’t it time to start living?
It’s a great day to be you!
April 25, 2015 1 Comment
I remember listening to the news on the radio one morning while driving north on Route 24. One depressing story after another. “Isn’t there something good happening in the world to talk about?” was what I remember asking myself.
In that moment, late 2008, LivingHalfFull.com was born.
My thought was to offer my voice to the world. Not to change it, but to simply remind people – myself included – that in the face of negativity and uncertainty there is always something to be grateful for, including our ability to rise above any negative circumstances we may be facing and not be willingly enslaved by them.
This week marks the sixth anniversary of my very first post back in April 2009. I’ve learned a great deal since then, especially about myself. Writing for me is my therapy, will me quite often reminding myself of what it is I really need to hear. It always comes back to being grateful for all that I have, all that I am, and all that I’ve yet to become.
Thank you to you and all the readers. I am grateful for your comments, emails, and for allowing me into your world over these years. I hope you’ve enjoyed the posts. And a very special thank you to the ever-talented Jeff Golenski, my technical savant who took my fledgling idea and magically breathed digital life into it.
It’s a great day to be you!
April 18, 2015 No Comments
It really doesn’t need to be this way.
I have an amazingly intelligent daughter who has convinced herself she is a “C” student. Why? Because her scholastic results are almost always graded “C”. Logically, in her mind, she was born a “C” student and has accepted this view of herself as true, as if preordained by some higher power. Subsequently, she continues to produce “C” level results. Sure, she’d love to get better grades, but she consistently lives down to the expectations she has accepted for herself.
Expectations. You never really notice them but they are always there. They are our own autopilot, silently and precisely recalibrating our life experience to match our own expectations of what we really think is possible for us. They are loyal, hard working servants, doing all they can to create the outcomes we trust will show up in our lives, even if we don’t like what arrives.
PLAN ACCORDINGLY Expectations are formed over time, a self-imposed belief system based upon life experiences with each outcome collectively contributing to the next one. Much of what we expect is influenced by fear. Our minds are quick to replay the episodes of the times when things didn’t work out as we had hoped. “Logically” we surmise things will probably happen that same way again so we emotionally brace for it by aligning our expectations accordingly.
But what happens when we base our expectations not solely on what has happened to us in the past but rather on what could happen to Read the rest of this entry »
April 11, 2015 No Comments